The breakdown of a relationship can be extremely challenging for both parties involved, however, it is also difficult for the children as well. There will come a time when we have to have “the conversation” with our child when we explain what exactly is going on. There is, of course, no right way to handle this conversation, and it will vary greatly depending on the individual circumstances and the child’s age.
My general advice, based on my years of practice as a divorce lawyer, is to give plenty of love and be reassuring as a way of showing that the divorce does not change anything about how much you love them. Kids will probably have anxiety about the change in their lives and it is important for you to reassure them that some things never change.
What you will want to avoid is for your children to hear slurs about the other parent. It is understandable that you are hurt, but it does not change the fact that the other parent will probably be involved in the child’s life. Try also to avoid putting the blame on the other parent.
In my experience, children take the news of divorce best if both parents are present and give a “unified front”. The two of you should answer their questions even the difficult ones, otherwise they will find their own answers. What is important for them to know is that you are still the adult who is charge, even if some things are changing.
I understand how difficult going through a divorce and dealing with associated matters can be, and so I always strive to make my clients feel hopeful for the future. With years of experience in handling divorce, financial settlements and child matters for clients from a variety of backgrounds, I can help you get the peace of mind you need. Contact me today by calling 07917711887 today, I look forward to hearing from you.